Winter Blues

Snowed and plowed in cars.

Where to even put all the snow?


Frozen, blustery and bitter cold.


Yes, these are images of winter. With it comes shorter periods of daylight which for many people causes depression. Seasonal Affective Disorder, which is the result of these longer periods of darkness during winter, can cause sufferers to experience symptoms of depression.

Winter blues can happen to many of us. After the holidays are over, there seems to be nothing to look forward to but the Spring thaw. You can get stuck in a rut and feel isolated just trying to stay warm.
There seems to be less opportunities for social activities when it is winter but it doesn't have to be that way.

Fighting the winter blues doesn't mean that all of a sudden you become a cold weather lover, you just need to learn how to find ways of dealing with the cold. Winter doesn't last forever although it may seem like it does.
You always have the power to fight back against the feelings of depression. Sometimes it may take getting professional help and other times it can be as simple as creating things for yourself to do.

Your home is a place where you can start to fight back against the winter blues. Make your home into your own sanctuary by decorating it in a way that makes you feel happy to be in it. Surround yourself with your favorite things. If you are uplifted by scents, use your favorites to help boost your spirits. If you feel better surrounded by nature, use plants to boost your mood. Play your favorite music or even nature sounds. Don't forget about how accessories like cozy blankets, pillows and art can transform your space into a more welcoming environment. Just the process of creating a place where you feel energized, relaxed and alive can help with your mood.

Dealing with clinical depression or just the winter blues is about more than going to see your doctor and taking a prescription pill. No pill is going to "fix" it all. You have the power to change your environment and change how you cope with the winter blues.

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What Real Patients Deal With

If someone who isn't experiencing life with a mental illness only believes what they hear on television, they would think that there are several medications available by prescription that can help you get out of the dark hole of depression.

These advertisements are paid for by pharmaceutical companies who are nothing more than legal drug manufacturers and really are just the makers of modern snake oil. They hire college educated representatives to go out and solicit their drugs to doctors who in return for pushing the pharmaceutical reps drugs on their patients are treated to expensive dinners and even vacations.

Meanwhile, the unsuspecting public, who are often desperate for help, fall prey to the endless cycle of trying one drug after another in order to make their "pain" go away. Dosages are increased until the patient achieves a zombie-like existance where they feel nothing. They are then able to "deal" more effectively with their depression.

Is this really how mental illness is supposed to be treated? Depression is not something that a person can just snap out of by taking a bubble bath or participating in a favorite self-indulgent activity. Treatment should be more than just experimentation with different anti-depressants until one is found that does the job.

True clinical depression when left untreated makes the sufferer cry for no apparent reason, lose interest in life itself and feel hopeless and often have thoughts of ending the pain and suffering by their own hand (suicide).

Anti-depressants aren't magic pills that wipe depressive symptoms away. Many make you feel like you have the flu with side effects like headaches, dizziness, nausea, diarrhea and sleepiness. Other side effects can cause you to feel "seperate" from your body and make you lose concentration.

Sometimes these symptoms will begin to fade as the medication and the chemicals in your brain begin to "mesh" together. You may even start to feel better. Your depression may lift and you might experience a general feeling of well-being for several months. You feel as if a miracle has occurred. Six months to a year later, the bottom may begin to start falling out from under you. Your former miracle drug is not performing as well as it was.

Your doctor will increase the dosage and the game will begin. After several days of "adjustment" your body may or may not "take" to this new dosage. Maybe your doctor will add an additional medication to help boost the effects of the first. Again, more side effects as your body adjusts.

In the meantime while all this tweaking of medication is going on, you are supposed to be able to be a responsible adult and deal with work, relationships and keeping yourself afloat financially.

Depression is a serious illness. The problem is that no definitive medical reasons for depression exist. Yes, there are theories and if you listen carefully to the commericals they state "Scientists BELIEVE depression is caused by not enough chemicals being produced in the brain" Research is constantly being done on treatment such as pharmaceutical "fixes" but maybe if we knew the why and how of it all, people who suffer from depression would not feel like a guinea pig when it comes to medicinal treatment.

Often people get so frustrated by the endless cycle of medications that they give up and begin self-medicating. Alcohol and illegal drugs are certainly not fixes for chronic depression. In fact, these substances make chronic depression worsen and create more problems for the patient.

There is not an easy fix to treating depression. Yes, a healthy diet and a regular exercise routine along with a good therapist and support system can help a patient cope with depression. Relying on medication alone is the mistake that far too many people make. Many of us allow these egotistical doctors to turn us into former shells of ourselves by creating "Stepford-like" patients who take their medications as prescribed even as we notice (or not) ourselves become numb to it all.

The person who is prescribing your depression medication SHOULD be encouraging you to attend regular therapy sessions. They should be in contact with your therapist in order to make sure that they have made the proper diagnosis of your condition. In the real world, many psychiatrists do not work with their patients therapist. Sometimes there is no communication between the two mental health professionals. This is the real world.

Going out and "finding" a better doctor is not so simple. With limits because of medical insurance, locations and areas of specialty, a patient cannot always "shop around" for a psychiatrist. If you are not fortunate enough to have medical insurance that covers mental health issues, a clinic may be suggested. In my experience, I have not yet come across a clinic that employs competant doctors. Many are still students and lack the experience to be effective listeners.

The thing that a depressed patient wants more than anything else is to be well again. Depression swallows you and binds you in chains that feel impossible to free yourself from. When you get sucked in too deeply, you almost do not care to break free.

The average depression patient looks to the medical professional for help but when that "professional" is blinded by their own self-righteousness, how can they really have compassion and understanding of their patients suffering?

Mental illness is a field of medicine that needs better regulation. The monetary connection between the psychiatrists and the pharmaceutical companies dirties the integrity of the mission.

October 7 is National Depression Screening Day

This being National Mental Health Awareness week, today's focus is on depression. If you have concerns about depression and think you or someone you know may be suffering from depression there is help out there. There are Many kinds of depression and all are treatable. The screening process is easy and will help you determine whether you need to seek out further treatment.

I cannot stress enough that depression does not go away without treatment. It may seem to subside sometimes but it will come back. It can get worse without treatment. Facing the fact that you have depression should be a relief because it can be treated. Unfortunately, too many people cannot deal with the idea that they have a mental illness. That is ridiculous. No one causes themselves to get depressed. No one can just be expected to "snap" out of it.

The face of depression can be anyone's. There are many different scenerios that can cause a person to become depressed. You may be at a higher risk if you have family members who have a mental illness or who suffer from substance abuse. Don't make the mistake of thinking that a few glasses of wine will help you to deal with the feelings of sadness. Self-medicating with alcohol (which is a depressant,by the way) will not help you if you have a depressive disorder.

Facing your demons is never easy but is necessary in order to have a healthy mind. If you were bleeding you would go get stitches or a bandage in order to treat your wound. If you have symptoms of depression you need to accept it and then get help.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel of depression. You can reach it, but first, you need to acknowledge it.

Children and Therapy

Children can suffer from conditions like anxiety and depression. An observant parent will notice when their child is not "right" and going to a therapist can help to determine how to best help the child.

Bringing a child to see a therapist is an important step in helping your child get well. Children can be affected by divorce, illness in the family, financial setbacks and many other life situations. Ignoring the problem won't make it go away.

It takes strength to accept that you may need to face some trying times but to get your child back to their normal healthy self, sometimes therapy is necessary.

Parents take their children to be vaccinated and for yearly health exams. Your child's mental health is important also. Often therapy can "solve" what is wrong and there should never be any shame involved. Mental illness does happen in children. Acceptance of what you cannot change and learning how to cope with it is the best thing that you can do for your child.

BiPolar Disorder

Coping with bipolar disorder takes work. Aside from keeping regular appointments with your psychiatrist and your therapist, you need to follow certain rules in order to manage your disorder. Many people are not diagnosed with bipolar disorder until their mid to late twenties or later. Sometimes they have already developed a dependancy on drugs or alcohol which further complicates the treatment of bipolar. Having a dual diagnosis is more challenging but it can be overcome. It takes patience on the part of the sufferer and lots of support from family and friends.

The first week of October is National Mental Health Awareness Week. Organizations like BringChange2Mind and NAMI are holding events to spread awareness and educate people about mental illness. This is also a great time for those who do suffer from a mental illness to teach others in order to reduce the stigma surrounding mental illness.

Bipolar disorder is a treatable condition. If you know someone who has bipolar disorder, they could always use support and understanding. Learn what you can about it. It happens in many families and the face of bipolar disorder could be someone you know.

Frustrations of Finding Quality Mental Health Care

I am no stranger to psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists of all kinds. I am the kind of person that when I get a splinter, I research everything about splinters. If I need medical attention, I get it but doctors are human and although they may have been educated about a certain subject, I will question them if I need to. It's my right.

In the state of New Jersey, as in many states across this country, mental health care is not easily accessible. In my county, there are not too many child psychiatrists that I have not seen. Time limits keep me from traveling an hour or more from my home to seek out care. Then, of course there are the restrictions of medical insurance. It isn't easy. And time is not on my side.

I know it takes time to properly diagnose mental illness. Too many disorders have symptoms that mimic other disorders. It takes a good doctor time to determine a diagnosis. When your "child" is a teenager, time is of the essence. When a teenager turns 18, they can stop their treatment. What often happens is that a young adult, frustrated by the system and the treatment process will turn to self-medicating. This leads to addiction and abuse. Unfortunately, it also can lead to suicide or accidental death.

After too many years of hearing stories from friends and my own experiences, I have had enough. It is not simple to find a competent doctor. I actually had a doctor turn my "child" down because it would require too much work to go through her history and treat her. Yes, I will be reporting this doctor. I have had so-called experts in their field write me a prescription without even seeing the child in question. I know that medication is often necessary but doctors just want to prescribe meds until we cannot think for ourselves anymore. Too many seem to think that controlling a mental illness is about turning the patient into a pill-dependent zombie. Not my child. No way.

I am a member of NAMI, and now I am even more inspired to get actively involved. I will be writing my state representatives about the problems with finding quality care for children, teens and adults. I will use my passions and throw them into writing for the cause of mental health care being more available.

Depression is a common, treatable mental illness. Most mental illnesses are treatable. It is just disgusting how hard it is to find someone in the profession who cares enough to listen to the parent, the patient and do what they took and oath to do.

Children and Psychiatric Medications

Parents who deal with a child who has a mental illness often to not know where to turn for help. When they do find a doctor to treat their child, they often allow the doctor to make the decisions regarding the care of their child. They are handed a prescription and even if they ask questions regarding the safety of these medications that are more commonly used for adults, they are told that the drugs are safe. How safe are they really? What can a parent do to ensure that their child is not being overmedicated?

This recent article published in the NY Times explores the idea of overmedicating children who are diagnosed with mental illnesses. Unfortunately because of the high costs involved, often medication is cheaper than weeks and months of therapy. Therapy along with medication (s) can be much more effective than medication alone. If you are low-income or not, with or without medical insurance, treating your child for a mental illness can strain a family's finances. Parents want desperately to get help for their child but many parents are not educated about the treatment of mental illness in children.

Parents need to be their child's advocate by joining support groups and learning as much as they can about their child's mental health diagnosis. Knowledge is power.

Clinical Depression

Been a busy week and although I would have liked to post something of my own today, instead I am sharing a very good piece about depression written by a writer friend of mine. He is also a psychologist and a very good poet as well!

This Depression test is very helpful and really does a good job of explaining the difference between feeling blue and true clinical depression.

A must-read for anyone who has any doubt about what depression is and if it is "real" or not.

This could also help to save someone you know from sinking further into the depths of a disorder that is totally treatable. Please click on the above depression test and read it.

Early-onset bipolar disorder

If your child or teen has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, there is much for you to learn. Adapting your child's environment will help them to better cope. Many parents do not know that school is an area that needs adjustments for students with "disabilities" so that they have the same educational opportunities as others.

Educating your bipolar child may be challenging at first but there are laws in place to guarantee that children/teens get the help that they need and deserve.


Tips for creating a calmer atmosphere in your child's bedroom  is important if your child has anxiety and bipolar. These tips are for parents of autistic children but they can also benefit the child who has difficulty with being overly stimulated by their surroundings. Creating a space for your child can soothe them and keep them from feeling overly stimulated. These tips can drastically change your home and your child's behavior in it.

Frustrations of Treatment

Finding quality mental health care is not as easy as looking through your insurance company's provider book or even doing on online search. You might think you've found someone that you have a rapport with and as time goes by, you realize that he/she wasn't really listening.

Being the parent of a child who has a mental illness can be even more frustrating. Finding quality care that specializes in children/adolescents and teens takes time and as a parent, time is of the essence. No parent wants to see their child suffer longer than they have to.

Some child psychiatrists are quick to diagnose, usually the diagnosis is ADHD or depression. Most are often very quick to prescribe medication and then others are slow to give a definite diagnosis. It does take time to properly diagnose a mental illness. The criteria is such that the professional needs to observe the child over a period of time and really factor in all aspects such as family history in order to not be quick to judge. Many psychiatrists (other doctors fit into this mold also) seem to resent the patient or parent of a patient who is well-read. A parent needs to walk a fine line between being their child's advocate and respecting who the doctor is. Unfortunately, some doctors take offense to a parent who wants to be hands-on with their child's treatment.

This parent says "Too bad!". This is MY child we are talking about. I want to know about all the side effects of any medication that is prescribed for my child. I understand fully that with some brain disorders that medication is not an option. I have read enough to know that there often can be less medication prescribed when other treatments are used. I firmly believe that there is no "magic" pill that will make all my daughter's symptoms disappear. She needs to learn coping skills also. Relying on medication to "fix" all is a big problem that too many people in the country have. Self-control, responsibility, coping with everyday stress can not be dealt with by popping a pill.

Not to mention the fact that many psychiatric medications that the FDA approves for use on children have not had lengthy enough studies to impress me. How do I know 5 or even 10 years down the road that the medications she is on now will not affect her in some negative way? If I continue to allow psychiatrists to increase her dosages what will work for her when she is 20, 30 or even 40 years old??

If an early-onset bipolar child has sleep issues (which many of them do) what is the matter with experimenting with an all-natural cure before taking another medication that may cause more side effects and mess up the balance she has achieved?

Then there are the doctors who do not want to label your child with anything but are still quick to pull out their prescription pad. Finding the balance between the two feels like an impossibility. Yes, being a parent of a mentally ill child is a challenge but the only option is to keep fighting for your child. The parent who sits back and allows the doctor to prescribe away without questioning is doing their child a disservice. Parents need to be involved in their child's treatment. If you child had any other medical issue you would ask questions. Thanks to the internet, there is plenty of information available. There are excellent organizations like NAMI and Bring Change 2 Mind which are helping to educate and reduce the stigma attached to mental illness. Parents do not need to be misinformed or ignorant about mental illness. Education gives you the power to get the best treatment for your child and that is what a parent does- takes care of them.

Facing Facts

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, one in four adult Americans suffer from a diagnosable mental illness in a given year. What many people need to realize is that mental illness is treatable. Not getting diagnosed and treated causes more problems. You cannot will it away or ignore it. It will affect your life.

You cannot self-medicate with alcohol because that is just covering up one problem and creating a new one. It does not make you weak to admit that you need help. And, contrary to popular thought, taking an antidepressant alone is not going to "cure" what ails you. There are no magic pills!!

We have become a weak society in that we have a pill for everything. Sometimes we need medications but often, they are used as a crutch. We do not look for other ways to deal with whatever ails us and we think that medication is the answer. With many mental illnesses, medication is necessary but other treatments are supposed to go along with it.

Therapy, both individual, group or specialized, can help to overcome anxiety and depression. It is also essential for the treatment of ADHD, bipolar disorder, eating disorders and many other mental illnesses.

Coming to grips with what you cannot change is difficult. Once you accept that you have been diagnosed you need to learn how to cope with it. Educate yourself and educate others. Don't be afraid. There is support out there. It can be scary at times, frustrating and it is normal to feel all these emotions and more.

We need to take the shame away from mental illness. The stigma attached to mental illness comes from people's ignorance about the different disorders. We tend to fear what we do not understand. I guess it is just human nature.

Laughter is a Necessary Medicine

Finding humor in dealing with mental illness helps to lighten up difficult situations. Mental illness covers a broad ranges of illnesses, with some being more serious than others. Even if you have days where you feel in control of your illness, there are days when everything goes wrong and the way many of us choose to deal with it is to find the humor where we can.



In my world, my family is well-informed about mental illnesses. We have bipolar, depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder in our family. We compare notes about medications and symptoms. We try to be open and honest about our illnesses because education is the only way to reduce the stigma that is still attached to mental illness. We try to use humor to get through the rougher times and although some of us are more sensitive than others, trying to see the humor in the moment of "crisis" can help to make the sufferer see that it isn't the end of the world like they think it is.



For myself, struggling with depression and anxiety is a way of life. I have come to accept that, but without seeing the humor in things it would probably be a lot worse. My husband, who is extremely supportive, helps me to control my anxiety by using sarcasm and humor with me. It works because it stops me in my tracks and makes me reevaluate my reactions to situations. Knowing that he is coming from a loving place and not mocking me I am able to laugh at myself. Having a trusting relationship with someone can really help. Accepting what you cannot change is another key. Mental illness is a challenge and a way to learn more about yourself and grow as a person. It isn't always an easy road but it is never dull.



When I deal with family members who suffer from mental illness, it is a two-way street. There are times when I take on the role of supporter and often I use humor to lighten the mood. Listening and being supportive can be hard but I know that the role will be reversed probably in the near future. We have learned as a family to laugh about what we cannot change and we deal with our illnesses just as anyone else deals with whatever illness they have.

Reducing the stigma of mental illness is done when those who suffer from a mental illness or have loved ones or friends who do talk about it. Too many people are ignorant about what mental illness "looks" like. Little do most people realize but many people get treatment in silence, ashamed of their diagnosis and they walk amongst us. Too many people picture the mentally ill as a crazed lunatic who cannot fit into society. There are many different illnesses and many different degrees in the severity of any individual mental illness. There are many faces of mental illness.

Some mental illnesses can be lifelong struggles and others can be overcome in a year or less. It depends on what the illness is and how severe the symptoms are. A lot depends on the person. You cannot give up or give in. Learning to take life one day at a time and be grateful for your little accomplishments can help you to move on to the next day with hope.



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